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husband being secrative?

OK, so my husband plays family feud online. he bought a new laptop. he plays family feud on his new laptop and plays with a lot of women he claims are older and pose no threat. however, i am not allowed on his computer and he has it password protected. he instant messages with these women a lot. he's closed the IMs out when i came around (saying it was rude of him to show me something while an IM kept popping up - even though i said i want to see what the IM said). he says the computer is password protected because i need to learn to trust him. but IMO, i smell trouble. am i being to jealous and controlling (as he says), or do i have a valid reason to worry? i've began giving him a dose of his own medicine and have proceeded to change all of my passwords so he can see what it's like. but i don't think it will bother him much at all. he's told me many times (when i get upset and go off on him about it all) that he doesn't want to be with me anymore if i'm going to be like that i don't know what to do anymore. i feel so neglected that he'd rather be online talking to these women than talking to me. how am i to know that they pose no threat? know what i mean?

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So, you're insecure. Great. If you're feeling like you're not spending enough time with your husband, tell him that. Don't go snooping and whining about his computer and your insecurities. That's not appealing. Just ask him to spend time with you away from the computer every once and awhile.
They are most definitely a threat. They get more attention from your husband than you do. There is something very wrong with that. He keep everything secret from you, something wrong with that too. You know it's not all innocent. You either put up or get out.
If you are married there should not be secrets between you. If there are than it is not a good marriage and you should be talking to your spouse to find out why.
Tell him that he had better decide what is important to him. What he is doing is wrong. If he doesn't shape up you should ship out
well hes doing something he dont want you to see.. if it was just friends he would let you look.. thats a fact. he is wrong to be doing this and not letting you in on it anytime you ask about it. keep a close eye on him.. good luck
EVER HEARD CURIOSITY KILLED THE CAT. MEN ARE SO INSENSITIVE AND SO DAMN CONTROLLING HE IS MAKING IT SEEM TO MORE THAN WHAT IT IS BECAUSE HE KNOWS IT IS GETTING UNDER YOUR SKIN JUST BE PREPARED FOR WHATEVER YOU READ ( I KNOW IF YOU THINK HARD ENOUGH YOU WILL BREAK THE CODE) MEN ARE NOT THAT CREATIVE JUST PRETEND YOU DON'T CARE, BUT YOU DO CARE. SEEK AND YOU SHOULD FIND AS THE GOOD BOOK SAYS. HE IS GOING TO SLIP UP, SO JUST STAY PATIENT, YOU WILL FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR
He is being secretive and that is wrong in a marriage and only causes problems. He is wrong for hiding things from u. There is no reason that he should unless he really does have something to hide
Yes, I believe that something is going on. Your instincts that is the Holy Spirit warning you that something is not right with your husband hiding the things he's doing on the internet as well as keeping his password from you. I wouldn't trust a word he's saying because what he's doing contradicts his actions. Pray and ask Jesus Christ to work things out for you. Whether that be to stay with your husband or leave him.
I would leave him for playing "Family Feud" online. How gay is that??
My guess he is trying to turn everything that he is doing around on you. He's doing something he shouldn't be doing. As far as just getting on the computer with a password... you can just cancel that and connect when it prompts you for a password. Also they have a keylogger that you can find on the internet to track his every move. Or look in the history or at the cookies stored on your computer.
seems like you are feeling a bit insecure---and I can see why. there really is no reason for him to be so secretive. I would be highly offended if my husband was closing out and type of I.M. when I walked onto the room. I think at this point .....you need to figure out what you are willing to live with and what you are not.....that would be your best bet.
sounds like a serious problem. If he refuses to change what are you going to do
GIRL BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT. I HATE IT WENT THAT SAY, YOUR OVERREACTING OR WHY YOU CAN YOU TRUST ME; OH THIS WAS IS A KILLER" YOU TRYING TO CONTROL ME"(KICK ROCKS, DUDE). OKAY YOU ARE PLAYING HIM AT HIS OWN GAME BUT HE KNOWS YOU" YOUR GOING TO GET UPSET AND START FUSSING WITH HIM" NOW CHANGE UP THE GAME DON'T ARGUE, IT NOT WORTH IT. WHEN HE WANT TO USE YOUR COMPUTER, YOU LOG IN FOR HIM DON'T TELL HIM. IF YOUR WORRIED ABOUT WAS GOING ON, SEEK AND YOU SHALL FIND BUT BE CAREFUL; BECAUSE WHAT YOU SEEK IS THE THING THAT WILL BRING YOU HEART. SO, GET YOUR EXIT GAME PLAN IN ORDER
I'm with you ... I smell trouble! He has no business password protecting anything. You two are married. If it's something that he doesn't want you to see, then chances are he shouldn't be doing it. You can give some people an inch and they'll take a mile. I am sorry to be so negative, but I too used to give my husband the benefit of the doubt and I got screwed. So I would say keep your eyes and ears open. Don't be nobody's fool. Don't go off of what HE tells you. He will tell you anything just to get you to move on to another topic. He is manipulating you in his own way.
You're not being jealous or controlling. You are his wife and he shouldn't keep any secrets from you unless it's a surprise party or gift for you. Which we are quite sure that it is not. So, just watch him, he'll mess up. Don't announce when you enter the room. Let him know it's you or the "games" he's playing online. If he's not willing to give them up, there is a serious problem. good luck sweetie.
It's called cheating. Whether it is physical or not it is still cheating. When he gives another female attention that is supposed to be attention that he gives you then he is cheating. If any girl or old woman holds a place in his heart besides his family and he refuses to show you what they are discussing then he is being shady. If it was no big deal then he would feel no threat by showing you. He knows you will get mad at what he is talking about with other women and he 'd rather play the "Trust me babe" act then come right out and tell you because he doesn't want to deal with your wrath. Well, I say he's going to have to deal with your wrath wether he likes it or not. Give it to him and explain why it is not good for him to let you go on believing he is being shady. Because once that distrust thing starts it never ends. By him not sharing with you will make you distrust him for the rest of your relationship. Demand to see it while he is on it. Put your foot down. Don't let him close it up or walk away and tell you he will show you later because he most likely will erase it. If you want I will go on Family Fued and investigate his conversations for you. And if he starts talking to me or IMing me then I will tell you and you can comfront him with proof. At lkeast then you will know. Good luck girl I have your back. My email is amberlibrary@hotmail.com if you would like to talk.
Alright I could be wrong but its a chance you hafta take especially considering I've gone through this since july last year. My husband pw'ed his computer and changed the pw's to his chat sites , he also closed pm's and hid emails and what ever he could from me , so I gave him a dose of this same medicine and pw'ed all my stuff he knew my pw's to chat site's im sites and my internet web pages as well , but I changed the pw to the computer it didnt effect him he didnt care their men they dont care . If your husband is changing his pw's and hiding im's and throwing at you that if your going to be like this he cant stay with you , do you really need it spelt out for you?. If he isnt cheating he has nothing to hide and wouldnt care if you read his chats or even joined in on the game.I'm sorry its just facts that I have learnt. Give him an altimatum give up the game spend as much energy trying to rebuild the marriage you both have , maybe even disconnect from the internet for a period of 6 months if he needs it for work then he sit's in front of you and does his work only nothing else and see where it goes from there. If he's not willing to give it a go then you have a choice to make.
I would put a stop to it. Take the laptop and tell him to either give you the password or get a divorce lawyer... if he freaks out there is serious trouble for him on that laptop. There should be no secrets in a marriage... so if he does not give you the password keep the laptop, and have your lawyer hire someone to crack it.
Tell him Family Feud is putting the relationship in Jeopardy.